I have a passion to see churches grow numerically and spiritually. Churches should be places where Christ is exalted and followed. Churches should be places where the hurting and lost find help and guidance. Churches should be making an eternal difference in our families, communities, and world. I long to make a difference in churches so that they can be all that God.
I am going to give you solutions to the real problems we face in the church. The first obstacle is love. Lets face the fact that most churches aren’t filled with loving people. We are doing something wrong when we think being a loving church means that we greet everyone during the welcome time. It doesn’t get any better when we say that we are a loving church because we have ran off everyone who was different.
I think most churches are filled with members who act like they should be on the Jerry Springer show. If you have ever watched the show it starts with someone admitting to an affair. Then they bring out the ‘victum” and the adulter informs them, “I love you and don’t want to hurt you, but I also don’t want anything to do with you. I am leaving you.” Churches are the same way. We love you as long as we don’t have to put up with you. It’s time for a change.
The reason churches fight is because they don’t love one another. How can we say we love when we don’t put others first. Normally we will put others first if they agree with us, but if they don’t then we forget about them. This has to change. Real love overcomes fights because it puts everyone first.
Love brings unity. Unity isn’t the absence of disagreement, but it is the presence of focus. If everyone has the same values then the fighting will stop. The main value in the church is loving the Lord Jesus Christ and each other. We must love not in word only, but in deed.
Read what the Bible says!
John 13:34-35, “I (Jesus) give you a new commandment: love one another. Just as I have loved you, you must also love one another. By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
1 John 3:18, “Little children, we must not love in word or speech, but in deed and truth.”
Why do we fight? We fight because we don’t love one another. Why don’t we love one another? Because we really don’t love Christ. How important is Christ to you? Is He more important than your hurt feelings? Is He more important that the bad preaching at Church? Is He more important than your comfort? Is He more important that your fame? Is He more important than everything else that gets in the way of you loving other people?
You might say, “D, this is why I left my church because it was a battle ground. I got hurt because I wasn’t loved.” I understand the pain you feel and I ask this as one who has been there, “do you love your church?” Make sure you aren’t guilty of the very thing you are condemning in your church. People leave the church not because they weren’t loved, but because they didn’t love others. I have fallen under this judgement many times. I’m not holier than my church. I’m not better than my church. I’m a member of my church.
Here is my call for you. Stop fighting and start loving. Do it because Christ is all that matters you. Commit yourselves to love Christ and others. This will stop the fighting and the churches will make the impact the world needs.